So, the best bet under these conditions is to reprogram your brain and disrupt established, comfortable patterns of behaviour. Maybe LO works for you, or you are both in a small team. If you are able to, limit contact as much as you can. It’s also possible to limit contact to essential business, and avoid LO during more casual interactions (coffee breaks etc.). If LO is someone you only interact with very occasionally, then No Contact is feasible. That means working on other tactics, but first, you should establish how much contact is really necessary. If you become limerent for one of them, then the number one tactic for overcoming limerence is denied to you. There’s no escaping it, you often have to work with your co-workers. So, what are the challenges that face the limerent who succumbs to a co-worker LO? And how can you overcome them? Like some sort of limerence super villain. Mix in mid-lifers, boredom, long periods of time spent together with the occasional shared triumphs and disasters, and you couldn’t have set up better conditions for limerence if you had designed it. It’s certainly the most common scenario that people email me about, and no wonder all the elements of limerence are there: close proximity to a small community of people (including potential LOs), built in barriers to the free expression of feelings, and no prospect of going fully No Contact. This has to be one of the commonest limerence traps out there.
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